Tuesday, September 23, 2008
Tough Guise
So today we began to watch the film "Tough Guise", a documentary on how boys are taught to behave and think due to the pressures of the world. I watched this movie in my 10th grade English class so I already know what the rest of the movie has in store for us viewers, but I still have the same opinion on it. I personally hate when guys put up the "tough guy" front in front of their friends, yet when they are just one-on-one with you; they act just like their normal selves. When men try to act all emotionless and tough, it makes you feel like they don't even care about your feelings and emotions, let alone have them themselves. If a guy is tough some of the time, it makes you more sympathetic for when he is actually upset. This is one of the reasons that some chick flicks are so popular is because when women see "tough" men all emotional, it makes them more emotional in turn because it is showing you the more intimate part of their lives, the part not usually expressed. I personally believe that men should just show what they are feeling and not hide everything, because that just turns to anger, which is probably another reason that men are so violent. Also on the violence issue, violence is never the answer, period. I hate violence personally because I don't understand the point in hurting another human being for your own enjoyment or to express your own feelings.
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I watched this film in the tenth grade too and today we continued to watch the Tough Guise movie. I completely agree with you. I personally know some guys that put on a front so that they can fit in with their friends. Around some people they will be really sweet, but when they get around their friends they act totally different. I even saw a change in my brother when he reached a certain age. It’s interesting how the movie tied in how urban youth got their examples of how to act from old ganster movies like The Godfather. Maybe this is just because I am a girl but why does violence have to be tied in with masculinity? When did having the ability to harm others become something cool or accepted? Not all guys are like this though. Some guys could have grown up in the same environment but are secure enough in themselves to discard what society says being a man is. If more guys did we probably wouldn’t have all of the violence that we do today.
...I'd be lying if I didn't say I was one of those kids for awhile.
Maybe I was just a hyper kid, but I vividly remember playing "Power Rangers" during 1st-2nd grade recess. "Power Rangers", of course meant beating the crap out of each other and posturing to be the toughest kid.
Looking back, I would say that most of my childhood play memories were semi-violent, or at least very masculine: nerf guns, toy swords (hard plastic ones that hurt like a bitch), pushing each other off of trampolines, wrestling, playing just about any contact sport, action figures, gun-heavy videogames (Turok, Goldeneye), imaginary "alien invasions", etc., etc.
However, I've been in next to no fights thus far, so I guess I turned out alright. In a weird way, I think girls are more shaped by societal expectations of femininity than boys are by their obsession with manliness.
Tough guys are so overrated. Every girl wants a tough guy for a boyfriend. But stereotypically tough guys usually hurt girls. They are so full of themselves and are so emotionless that they just play girl by girl not taking in the girls feelings. You always hear the term that the nice guys always get hurt. With the image of guys today there are more and more tough guys and very few nice guys. The typical man has grown over the year you can even see it in the action figures. There are the jocks and the losers. It’s no wonder boys are the most to act out violently and bring guns to school. But not just men have it bad, women have it even harder. Most men don’t have to deal with anorexia and bulimia like women do. Though, you don’t hear about women shooting steroids up to get buff. Thanks to the media, with all the TV shows, movies, and magazines the typical man or women is completely distorted. You can’t be beautiful unless your size 5 or below. The term butter face is used on a lot of girls. Men who don’t play sports are losers. Or if they don’t have massive muscles they aren’t seen as attractive. I think the media should change because it’s just getting worse. It’s distorting the regular person even more and soon the world will be full of anorexic girls who have had tons of plastic surgery, buff holster or Abercrombie looking guys with a huge ego. It’s truly disgusting.
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